Communication is the bridge between partners that connects your realities. Without it you may be fascinated, but eventually your realities will bump into each other and that grind will cause friction. You can't get along with an intimate partner if you have no true understanding of them.
How well do you communicate with each other? Do you listen, and if so, do you hear what they mean rather than what they are saying? It's partly about the words but it's all about the meaning. Does you partner value your thoughts and invite you to express freely? Do you feel that your take on things is valid even if your partner doesn't share it? Do small disagreements turn into a big deal?
If you need some support in smoothing out your communication? Sharing positive and effective communication skills for Couples is an area of expertise for me. Email me and let's see how I can help you.
Bad communication is so frustrating
Not this same problem again, you think with that sinking feeling. Why can't we just solve this once and for all, you wonder.
Usually it's no ones fault, Often, it is the process that goes wrong There are rules and guidelines for getting your point across without wounding the listener. You might use good tools to speak at work but find that you can't make them work at home where the heart is involved.
We fall in love with people who are different enough from us to create a spark. It’s that “completion feeling” of interest & fascination. We feel sad & confused when the spark burns instead of warming us. It’s a baffling betrayal to our emotional logic that we can deeply love someone that we can't communicate easily with & sometimes want to emotionally avoid.
No one wants to walk on eggshells
Being content and at ease in your relationship is a good feeling. Communication can get you there. Couples communication is learnable & helping Couples learn it is something that I specialize in.
Stop walking on eggshells or avoiding for fear of a blow-up. Give yourself the gift of more peaceful coexistence.
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I am happy to help you resolve issues and maintain a positive forward momentum during this difficult time.
Stay safe and be well.
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I look forward to hearing from you.
Dona Laressa Desmond, PhD
CPC CA LMFT
Counseling Help via Video Sessions
29 years experience
$30 discount on 60 min video session