Resentments

For the most part resentments are like a low grade chronic fever, festering away in the background. You can still function, but your relationship is weakened.

Aware of your resentments? You know how they dampen your joy and make you edgy with your partner. It's an uneasy platform for Love to stand on.

Why does it happen and how can it change? It happens because you are hurt, disappointed and feel powerless to change something that bothers you about your partner. Resentment is child of frustration, the first cousin to anger and the on-ramp to rage fueled outbursts.

If you need some support and a calm, soothing, helpful therapist to show you how to dissolve your resentments with each other email me and let's see how I can help you.

Repressed patterns of resentment are the worst

You have that same feeling over and over again. If only your partner REALLY understood how you felt maybe they would stop or change. If they would just respond differently and for once see it from your point of view. Of course, they are thinking the same thing about you. You both exhaust yourselves trying to be understood. Nothing seems to work so one or both of you just avoid which solves nothing.

You want closeness so on top of resentment you feel sad. It's hard to take the emotional distance or have a hopeful heart when relationship struggles build up. You resign yourselves to something that you don't want, hold it all in and avoid conflict, until it breaks through into a big fight.

We fall in love with people who are different enough from us to create a spark. It’s that “completion feeling” of interest & fascination. We feel sad & confused when the spark burns instead of warming us. It’s a baffling betrayal to our emotional logic that we can deeply love someone that we frequently fight with & sometimes emotionally dread.

Can time heal resentments

Yes and no. It depends on several things. The type of resentment, what caused it, if you can let it go, if you can work together and get resolution. The good news is that Resentment Recovery has proven methods that work. It’s learnable & helping Couples learn it is something that I specialize in.

If you can't take the ragged silence of resentment and think that Couples Therapy with an emphasis on Resentment Recovery might be a good choice for you, drop me an email. Stop living with less alignment out of fear of a blow-up. Give yourself the gift of more peaceful coexistence.

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Warm regards,

Laressa Desmond, PhD,

CPC CA LMFT

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